Know whether your closest relationships are actually getting better
We give senior leaders a structured method, a real baseline, and a twelve-week tracking system so you replace "I think things are improving" with data you can read and trust.
We treat your closest relationships the way a careful analyst treats any important problem: start with a real baseline, track what changes, and be honest about what the data can and cannot tell you.
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What you'll learn
What you'll be able to do
- Establish a dated baseline for your closest relationships so you have a real starting point, not a feeling.
- Track repair time and trend across twelve weeks using the Repair Record, a structured log that separates signal from noise.
- Apply the six pillars of the PLANET YOU Method to your own role, industry, and relationship context.
- Identify the confounds in your data, meaning the other things that changed, so you do not credit or blame the wrong cause.
- Read the science behind emotional labor, conflict, and repair, and understand where that science is still limited.
- Know exactly what this school does and does not do, and where to go next if you want a different kind of support.
How it works
A school that adapts to you
This isn't a set of static videos. Every lesson is generated live and tuned to where you actually are.
We learn your level
A quick placement check tailors your starting point so you're never bored or lost.
Lessons adapt as you go
Each lesson is written for your pace and your goal, adjusting as your skills grow.
Your AI coach keeps you moving
Checkpoints, feedback, and gentle nudges turn progress into a real result.
The curriculum
What's inside your school
6 modules · 28 lessons
Your Baseline and the PLANET YOU Method
Introduces the full PLANET YOU Method, its nine steps, three stages, and six pillars, and establishes your personal repair baseline before any work begins.
- 1.1The PLANET YOU Method: Nine Steps, Three Stages, Six PillarsIncluded
- 1.2How This School Uses the MethodIncluded
- 1.3Setting Your Repair BaselineIncluded
- 1.4What to Track and What to IgnoreIncluded
- 1.5Signal Versus Noise: Reading Early Data Without Fooling YourselfIncluded
Emotions and Energy: Pillar One and Pillar Two
Examines emotional labor and relational energy through science, tradition, practice, and measurement, covering what each pillar costs and how to track repair time.
- 2.1The Science of Emotional Labor at Work and Its Cost at HomeIncluded
- 2.2What Traditions Understood About Depletion and RenewalIncluded
- 2.3A Practice for Noticing Your Energy State Before You Walk InIncluded
- 2.4The Conflict and Repair Research: What the Studies SayIncluded
- 2.5Measuring Repair Time: Your First Tracked MetricIncluded
Intuition and Beliefs: Pillar Three and Pillar Four
Examines whether people accurately read their own role in a pattern and how early-formed beliefs about conflict shape current behavior, through science, tradition, practice, and measurement.
- 3.1The Science of Self-Perception in Conflict: How Accurately Do We Read Our Own PartIncluded
- 3.2What Traditions Understood About Seeing Yourself ClearlyIncluded
- 3.3A Practice for Mapping Your Own Pattern in One ConflictIncluded
- 3.4Beliefs Formed Long Before This Relationship: The Research on Conflict SchemasIncluded
- 3.5Measuring Your Belief Patterns: Adding a Second Column to Your Repair RecordIncluded
Alignment and Action: Pillar Five and Pillar Six
Reframes boundaries as alignment rather than restriction and examines what communication research actually shows, through science, tradition, practice, and measurement.
- 4.1The Science of Boundaries: What the Research Actually ShowsIncluded
- 4.2What Traditions Understood About Alignment Over RestrictionIncluded
- 4.3A Practice for Naming a Misalignment Without an AccusationIncluded
- 4.4What Communication Research Shows: Effect Size, Replication, and Honest LimitsIncluded
- 4.5Measuring Alignment and Action: Completing Your Six-Pillar BaselineIncluded
Reading Your Own Data
Teaches you to interpret twelve weeks of Repair Record entries honestly, separating real trends from confounds and understanding what your numbers can and cannot tell you.
- 5.1Averages, Ranges, and Normal Variation: What Your Numbers MeanIncluded
- 5.2Confounds: What Else Changed While You Were TrackingIncluded
- 5.3Reading Your Trend Over Twelve WeeksIncluded
- 5.4Using Your Coach on Your Own Data Without Fooling YourselfIncluded
Your Repair Record and What Comes Next
Consolidates your full Repair Record, locates you honestly on the PLANET YOU Method, and points clearly to what this school does not do and where to go if you want more.
- 6.1Building Your Complete Repair Record: Baseline, Trend, Noise Range, and ConfoundsIncluded
- 6.2Where You Are on the PLANET YOU Method NowIncluded
- 6.3Setting Your Reassessment DateIncluded
- 6.4What This School Does Not Do and Where to Go NextIncluded
Who it's for
Is this you?
The burned-out executive
He is effective at work and depleted at home, and he needs a method that fits how he already thinks — not another book to feel guilty about.
The high-performing VP
She has done couples workshops and read the research, but she still cannot tell whether anything has shifted — she needs a measurement system, not more reflection prompts.
The founder under pressure
He carries the weight of the company into every room at home and wants a structured way to track whether that dynamic is changing over time.
The seasoned C-suite leader
She has decades of experience managing complexity at work and is ready to bring that same disciplined approach to the relationships that matter most to her.
The analytically minded director
He trusts data over gut feel in every domain and wants a relationship improvement process he can actually measure and reassess on a real timeline.
The leader re-evaluating priorities
She recently stepped back from a role or a pace that was consuming her and wants a concrete, evidence-grounded way to rebuild closeness at home.
Questions
Frequently asked
Your teacher
A note from your teacher
Powerful Messages
If you are reading this, you are probably already doing the work. You show up with more intention than most people. You have read enough to know that relationships take effort, and you are not afraid of that. But somewhere along the way, you started to wonder whether the effort is landing. Whether things are actually better, or whether you have just gotten quieter about the tension.
That is not a character flaw. It is a measurement problem. And it is exactly the kind of problem that senior leaders are well equipped to solve, once someone gives them the right tools.
I built this school because the resources that exist for relationships at this level are almost all qualitative. They ask you to reflect, to feel, to notice. That is useful. But it is not sufficient for someone who makes consequential decisions for a living and needs to know whether a course of action is working. You deserve the same clarity in your personal life that you bring to your professional one.
What we do here is concrete. You set a dated baseline. You track repair time. You learn to separate signal from noise using a structured log we call the Repair Record. You apply the six pillars of the PLANET YOU Method to your specific context, your role, your industry, your relationship history. And you learn to account for confounds, the other things that changed while you were tracking, so your data means something.
We also read the science together, carefully and honestly. Emotional labor, conflict schemas, the research on communication and repair. We look at effect sizes. We name the limits. Because the last thing a careful thinker needs is a school that overpromises what the evidence supports.
This is not therapy. It is not coaching in the clinical sense. It is a structured, measurement-based curriculum for leaders who are ready to apply the same rigor to their closest relationships that they bring to everything else. If that is you, I am glad you are here.
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